The rules dating guide
I didn’t ask his permission to marry his daughter, and I am sure that to this day, that colors our relationship. And know that once you have asked the hardest part left will be asking her. It is much easier to ask someone a difficult question when you have mucked out stalls with him, or whatever it is that you might do together. You should not start dating until you are serious about being ready to spend the rest of your life with someone.
I am sure I will never measure up to what he believes his daughter deserves, but I also suspect that I would be a great deal closer to that measure if I had, had the courage to ask. Again I am going to point to the section on being friends first. You likely should not take someone you can’t see yourself spending the rest of your life with out on a date.
Girls who want to date my sons, if you come to my house it is not a test. You are there to make friends, to learn and understand, to see the young man that you are interested in, in situations that you might not have seen him in before. I really hope that you have seen me treat your mother and your sisters with a level of respect that helps you to understand what it means to be a gentleman. That should be a good measuring tape for your date.
I don’t always pull your mom’s chair out, and I joke about opening doors and letting them go in first (dragons) but it is incredibly important stuff. If the young woman you are dating does not think enough of herself to dress appropriately for a date, what is she going to think of you?
Besides it is a lot easier to get to know someone’s family when you aren’t under the pressure of trying to impress them because you are romantically interested in one of them.
If you have spent time hanging out working in their garden, playing with their brothers and sisters, talking with their parents you will have a much better idea of who it is you are getting involved with. When it is time to put the tools away and head off to church or nice dinner think of the way they act and dress and are treated.
After all, the boys that are taking our daughters out are just as much in need of guidance as our daughters.
If you have time to get to know the person first it makes that “happily ever after” that much easier.
You should be a gentleman, your date should be a lady. You might date someone who you can’t live happily ever after with, and that is ok.